100%. The “health is a personal responsibility” narrative is supposed to sound empowering, but it often functions like a morality clause: if you’re unwell, you must have failed.
And I'm deeply interested in the both/and here: there are things we can do that support health and capacity — without that implying we caused our illness or that care is something we have to earn. The staying practice feels like a way to hold that nuance: agency without blame.
Beautiful post and deeply honest. Thanks, Lindsay, for not avoiding writing about the really hard things like this that we all face at times!🙏
Thank you, Myra! I know we all have weeks like this in our own ways.
I really needed to read this today. Thank you for your words, Lindsay.
I’m so glad, Amra. Not exactly a cheerful romp into the New Year – but this is 2026 we’re talking about here.
100%. The “health is a personal responsibility” narrative is supposed to sound empowering, but it often functions like a morality clause: if you’re unwell, you must have failed.
And I'm deeply interested in the both/and here: there are things we can do that support health and capacity — without that implying we caused our illness or that care is something we have to earn. The staying practice feels like a way to hold that nuance: agency without blame.